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I would call it gender essentialism…

…but it’s more like gender bwuhsmnjdksuhtskxummmmism. 

An acquaintance of mine reposted this on her facebook wall: 

“Yes, I’m a women. I push doors that clearly say PULL. I laugh harder when I try to explain why I’m laughing. I walk into a room and forget why I was there. I count on my fingers in math. I hide the pain from my loved ones. I say it’s a long story when it’s really not. I cry a lot more than you think I do. I care about people who don’t care about me. I try to do things before the microwave beeps. I listen to you even when you don’t listen to me. And a hug will always help. Yes, I’m a woman! Re-post if you’re proud to be one, come on ladies.”

First of all, don’t come on ladies without their enthusiastic consent! Come on guys. Oh wait. 

I couldn’t even roll my eyes at this post because it was so nonsensical that my brain just briefly short-circuted and was like “No, I am done here, I am packing my bags and LEAVING.” Let’s break this down into separate categories, shall we?

The Women Are So Dumb, Amirite? Section: We can’t read the signs on doors and we count on our fingers! Silly ladies. Re-post if you are proud to think that you, and every member of your gender, are stupid. Also men never do these things, they are totally not normal human tendencies or anything. 

The Ladies Are So Emotional, And Martyrs About It Section: I cry, like, all the time! And I care about you SO MUCH. But I can’t be open and honest with you about these things because I am a lady. It is my duty to bear the burden of being EMOTIONAL and CRYING without ever letting you know. Just hug me and it will make it all better. 

The Complete Nonsense Whatthefuckery Section: I need to do things before the microwave beeps! I’m not sure why, but since I am a women I am sure that not only does every woman on the planet do this same thing that I do, but we all do it because it is deeply buried in our DNA. It must be leftover from when we microwaved the wooly mammoth burgers our men brought home! 

Here, I made my own post:

Yes, I am a woman! I wear shoes at work. Sometimes I let my coffee get cold and reheat it in the microwave. I use minty toothpaste. I own black underwear. I went to the store earlier and I meant to buy paper towels, canned soup, and tin foil, but I totally forgot the tin foil. Yes, I’m a woman! Re-post if you are proud to have toes!

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In case you needed more of a reason to love Laci Green

Oh hello. I love you.

Yes yes and a million times yes. Everything in this. Just yes.
It’s nice to see a smaller person echoing the same rhetoric that I do as a bigger person.

But why do I feel so weird about a slim person validating my size but in such a positive video? I dunno. This is so awesome, because FA is all about pushing to normalise fat bodies and the word itself and to have non-fat people on board is FUCKING RAD. I just feel kinda patronized in a way? Am I completely alone in that? Am I just being cynical as fuck? I don’t even know.
But for the most part, I love it.

^ I love Laci Green, I really do. I also totally understand where you’re coming from. It makes me uncomfortable when non-fat/slim people stand up for fat bodies. I mean, it’s lovely, but…I can’t help but feel as though plus-size people’s voices and bodies aren’t validated until non-fat people speak for us. Like, “Oh look! A pretty, white, slim-privileged person thinks all those fat, icky bodies are cool, so…maybe they are cool?” Laci’s message is a positive one, yes, but it’s like, why can’t I as a plus-size person talk about my body in a similarly sharp, evocative way and, in so doing, validate my body and my presencemyself. 

Overall, I am in agreement with Laci and it’s totally awesome to have her on board the FA movement. Her voice is indeed a powerful one.

Agreed, and I also think this ties into the phenomenon of people saying “Oh yeah, body-positivity is awesome, we should totally love ourselves! Well unless you’re REALLY fat, of course, that’s different.” I’m glad to see a non-fat size acceptance advocate getting positive attention but I do wonder if she would be getting the same level of positive attention if she were actually quite fat, instead of small with some belly rolls.  

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browngloriasteinem:

musafeer:

kymm-seabiscuit:

I’ve been seeing this image pop up now for awhile and it irritates the shit out of me. I’ve never received food stamps, but this image is just stupid for a few reasons:
1. The iPhone. A pretty nice phone and it can be pretty expensive. However, it is a one-time purchase. Some people get them at pretty low cost for renewing a contract. AT&T sold 3GS models for $50. (I’m not sure if they still are.) Secondhand iPhones can be purchased for dirt cheap via craigslist. Monthly contract prices vary with the type of plan you have, but it can also be reduced to a fairly reasonable price. Finally, the iPhone could have been purchased prior to a food stamp recipient having the need to use food stamps. But did you think of any of that? No, because you’re too busy thinking of ways to fucking judge people. As an addendum, I’ve heard people say that the poor “shouldn’t even have a cell phone.” Are you fucking kidding me? How is an unemployed or underemployed person supposed TO FIND A  JOB WITHOUT A PHONE?
2. Multiple tattoos. Again, one-time cost for tattoos. Could have been done before a person lost their job. Maybe it was a gift. But no, poor people shouldn’t have tattoos, piercings, or nice clothes. The clothes weren’t mentioned here, but that’s another stupid thing people say. I have a pretty nice closet of clothes I’ve built up over the last six years (since I stopped dressing grunge shortly after high school). Purchased a little bit at a time. So if you see someone wearing a decent outfit using food stamps maybe you should keep that in mind. Also, one can find pretty nice clothes at Goodwill for really, really cheap. I’ve found sweaters that would normally retail for $40 for $2.
3. Seriously, a mani and pedi? I had that done for my brother’s wedding last summer and it cost less than $20. Granted, I didn’t go to the most fabulous salon, but…really…you’re going to bitch about that?In conclusion, fuck you for judging someone when you don’t know what circumstances led to their need for assistance. I’m sure there are people out there that abuse the system, but you don’t fucking know that just because they’re wearing a nice sweater. May you never have the misfortune of losing your job and not knowing how you’re going to make rent or feed yourself.

Common sense facts of the day.

^^^^

I’m on food stamps. I also have an iMac, an iPod, a cell phone, a printer/scanner, a PS3 and a flat screen. The computer, phone, and ipod were all gifts from my mother about six years ago. I still have the same ones. I’m really lucky that they have never broken because I would have to scrimp and save for a long time to replace the computer and it is my life line. The printer/scanner was my sister’s and I got it when she moved. The PS3 and television are my fiance’s. He bought them when he was living at home and could afford to buy nice things because he wasn’t paying rent at the time. I don’t have a car at the moment because mine was stolen and crashed last year and I couldn’t afford to fix or replace it. I consider us really, really lucky to have these things. They provide us with lots of entertainment, knowledge, and the ability to easily communicate with everyone. We both have jobs, and I am applying for school and looking for a second or better-paying job. Our food stamps work out to less than $25 per week, per person. We can’t make it last all month, and luckily we have enough extra income to allow us to eat when the food stamps run out. Not everyone is so lucky. I’ve brought up the food stamp thing before on this blog because it’s pretty fucking ignorant to assume that because someone has a nice possession or can afford a $25 manicure, they don’t have any trouble getting enough food to eat. 

browngloriasteinem:

musafeer:

kymm-seabiscuit:

I’ve been seeing this image pop up now for awhile and it irritates the shit out of me. I’ve never received food stamps, but this image is just stupid for a few reasons:

1. The iPhone. A pretty nice phone and it can be pretty expensive. However, it is a one-time purchase. Some people get them at pretty low cost for renewing a contract. AT&T sold 3GS models for $50. (I’m not sure if they still are.) Secondhand iPhones can be purchased for dirt cheap via craigslist. Monthly contract prices vary with the type of plan you have, but it can also be reduced to a fairly reasonable price. Finally, the iPhone could have been purchased prior to a food stamp recipient having the need to use food stamps. But did you think of any of that? No, because you’re too busy thinking of ways to fucking judge people. As an addendum, I’ve heard people say that the poor “shouldn’t even have a cell phone.” Are you fucking kidding me? How is an unemployed or underemployed person supposed TO FIND A  JOB WITHOUT A PHONE?

2. Multiple tattoos. Again, one-time cost for tattoos. Could have been done before a person lost their job. Maybe it was a gift. But no, poor people shouldn’t have tattoos, piercings, or nice clothes. The clothes weren’t mentioned here, but that’s another stupid thing people say. I have a pretty nice closet of clothes I’ve built up over the last six years (since I stopped dressing grunge shortly after high school). Purchased a little bit at a time. So if you see someone wearing a decent outfit using food stamps maybe you should keep that in mind. Also, one can find pretty nice clothes at Goodwill for really, really cheap. I’ve found sweaters that would normally retail for $40 for $2.

3. Seriously, a mani and pedi? I had that done for my brother’s wedding last summer and it cost less than $20. Granted, I didn’t go to the most fabulous salon, but…really…you’re going to bitch about that?

In conclusion, fuck you for judging someone when you don’t know what circumstances led to their need for assistance. I’m sure there are people out there that abuse the system, but you don’t fucking know that just because they’re wearing a nice sweater. May you never have the misfortune of losing your job and not knowing how you’re going to make rent or feed yourself.

Common sense facts of the day.

^^^^

I’m on food stamps. I also have an iMac, an iPod, a cell phone, a printer/scanner, a PS3 and a flat screen. The computer, phone, and ipod were all gifts from my mother about six years ago. I still have the same ones. I’m really lucky that they have never broken because I would have to scrimp and save for a long time to replace the computer and it is my life line. The printer/scanner was my sister’s and I got it when she moved. The PS3 and television are my fiance’s. He bought them when he was living at home and could afford to buy nice things because he wasn’t paying rent at the time. I don’t have a car at the moment because mine was stolen and crashed last year and I couldn’t afford to fix or replace it. I consider us really, really lucky to have these things. They provide us with lots of entertainment, knowledge, and the ability to easily communicate with everyone. We both have jobs, and I am applying for school and looking for a second or better-paying job. Our food stamps work out to less than $25 per week, per person. We can’t make it last all month, and luckily we have enough extra income to allow us to eat when the food stamps run out. Not everyone is so lucky. I’ve brought up the food stamp thing before on this blog because it’s pretty fucking ignorant to assume that because someone has a nice possession or can afford a $25 manicure, they don’t have any trouble getting enough food to eat. 

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Legit friend-zone shit on my dash (TW: rape)

stfuconservatives:

queercakes:

libertarians-and-stoya:

extremely-clever:

This is just your friendly reminder that men use the term friend-zone to rape women and you are NOT, as a man, allowed to reclaim it.

Period.

Even if you’ve heard a woman use the phrase once.

When shit like this exists (HUGE TRIGGER WARNING FOR RAPE), you lose your right to throw this word around.

If you choose to use it, you are an asshole who supports rape culture.

Please, please, please stop.

Check your damn privilege as a female who will never experience the friend zone.

I don’t think you understand - a majority of men do not think it is okay to rape and if you’re getting butthurt over a damned rage comic, then get the fuck off the internet.

Females don’t fucking understand the frustration, the depression and the desperation of the friend zone.  It’s the worst goddamned place to be - especially if you’re lead on.

Seriously.  Check your fucking privilege.

Do you know what’s an even worse place to be in than the friend zone? A place where you’re getting raped.

You have no idea what the term “privilege” means, do you?

kbai

Wow. A Libertarian man telling us to “check our privilege” because we object to a comic about being brutally raped.

“It’s the worst goddamned place to be”

now THAT

THAT

is some privileged bullshit. If you honestly think the worst place in the world to be is a straight man whose crush won’t let him fuck her, you are privileged in so many ways that I can’t even begin to name them.

-Jess

When you say that being in the friendzone is the worst place to be, you are saying that BEING SOMEONE’S FRIEND, AND NOT FUCKING THEM, IS HORRIBLE. You are saying that this person that you supposedly care about is not worth being around unless you get to fuck them. 

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whoneedsfeminism:

My daughters should not have a truck grabbed out of their hands by an adult and handed to a male cousin because, “This is a boy toy anyway.”
My son shouldn’t be ridiculed because his favorite color is pink.  

My sister is pregnant with a boy right now and I want so badly to send her stuff in every color but blue. 

whoneedsfeminism:

My daughters should not have a truck grabbed out of their hands by an adult and handed to a male cousin because, “This is a boy toy anyway.”

My son shouldn’t be ridiculed because his favorite color is pink.  

My sister is pregnant with a boy right now and I want so badly to send her stuff in every color but blue. 

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When I was in 6th grade, a girl from my class asked me if I was pregnant to humiliate me during lunch period.

shakethecobwebs:

I snapped back with “nope - are you?” Her friend spit in my face.

I got up, went to the office, and told one of my favorite teachers. The girl may have gotten detention. I’m not sure.

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When I was in 8th grade, I was still living in an abusive household. The worth of my existence was constantly questioned - especially since I was fat.

“Mom, why do you drink? It’s killing you. It’s killing us.”

“You stop eating and I’ll stop drinking.”

I remember the night she tried to choke me. Everyone was bleeding and screaming and crying. “You disgusting fat bitch - GET BACK HERE.” 

My sister slammed my mom into a wall to get her to stop. I held my baby brother in the next room, caressing his head and singing a lullaby to him in the most calm voice I could muster. “You’re such a handsome little boy. Do you know that? You’re perfect in every way. You’re my baby, aren’tcha? I love you so much. I love you so, so, so, much.”

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This past semester at University. I’m in a crowded lecture hall. The seats are small, but manageable. I reach down to get my notebook out of my bag. The girl next to me says “I’d rather you not elbow me in the face.” I didn’t realized I had, so I said “Oh, I’m really sorry. …Did I hit you?” 

“No, but all things considered, I thought I’d warn you so that you don’t.”

All things considered? “Uh, right…okay. Well, I’m not going to hit you.” She mumbled something under her breath. A few moments later, the girl next to her asked if she was in her way as well. She replied “No, I just don’t think she knows how much space she takes up.”

I looked at her and said “Holy shit - are you fucking serious?” She looked annoyed and all I could muster was “Actually, I know exactly how much fucking space I take up, and I won’t apologize for it.”


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These things didn’t happen simply because “bullying happens.” These things didn’t happen because I deserved them. These things didn’t happen because I’m unhealthy or disgusting or lazy or stupid. These things happened because we live in a culture that perpetuates and rewards fat-hate. 

So the next time you’re thinking “I should make a comment about a person’s body” - you can fucking eat me. 

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